A groundbreaking guide to caring for children who live outside binary gender boxes
We are only beginning to understand gender. Is it inborn or learned? Can it be chosenor even changed? Does it have to be one or the other? These questions may seem abstractbut for parents whose children live outside of gender norms, they are very real.
No two children who bend the rules of gender do so in quite the same way. Felicia threw away her frilly dresses at age three. Sam hid his interest in dolls and girl things until high schoolwhen he finally confided his desire to become Sammi. And seven-year-old Maggie, who sports a boys basketball uniform and a long blond braid, identifies as a boy in the front, and a girl in the back. But all gender-nonconforming children have one thing in commonthey need support to thrive in a society that still subscribes to a binary system of gender.
Dr. Diane Ehrensaft has worked with children like Felicia, Sam, and Maggie for over 30 years. In Gender Born, Gender Made, she offers parents, clinicians, and educators guidance on both the philosophical dilemmas and the practical, daily concerns of working with children who dont fit a typical gender mold. She debunks outmoded approaches to gender nonconformity that may actually do children harm. And she offers a new framework for helping each child become his or her own unique, most gender-authentic person.
